In 2020 I made a list.
Not a to-do list. A manifestation list. The kind where you write down the things you actually want not the things you think you’re allowed to want, but the real ones and then you put some energy behind them and see what happens.
Two things were at the top of mine.
The first was to finally stop hiding. I had been a psychic medium for years at that point, working quietly, helping people privately, not fully owning it in public. I wanted to come out. To stop shrinking the thing I was actually here to do.
The second was to get my family-on-Family Feud Canada.
I know. Stay with me.
We had applied for the first season. Made it to the second phase of auditions in Toronto. And then didn’t make it onto the show.
My family took it as a sign. Maybe it just wasn’t meant to be.
I disagreed.
Not because I was being stubborn well, maybe a little but because I genuinely believed we hadn’t put enough energy behind it. Wanting something passively and actually directing your attention toward it are two completely different things. So, I proposed we try again. Properly this time.
We reapplied. We created a Facebook page and an Instagram account. We assigned a day to each family member and on that day, you were responsible for creating content, engaging our followers, and doing everything you could to show Family Feud Canada and the universe that we were serious about this.
We made noise. We stayed consistent. We kept our attention on the thing we said we wanted.
And eventually Family Feud Canada came calling.
On January 11, 2021, our episode aired.
Here’s where it gets interesting.
When I wrote come out as a psychic medium on my list, I had a very specific and very modest idea of what that might look like. A post maybe. A quiet announcement. Some gradual, controlled version of stepping forward.
The universe had other plans.
My appearance on Family Feud Canada became my coming out. In front of an entire country. On national television. The door didn’t open it got ripped off the hinges.
And what I realized afterward was this: the two things on my list that seemed completely unrelated weren’t separate at all. Spirit had been holding them together the whole time, working both threads simultaneously, moving me toward something I couldn’t see from where I was standing.
That’s how it works. Not always in the way you planned. Not always on your timeline. But it works.
So, what does any of this have to do with you?
Everything, actually.
Where you put your attention is where your energy goes. This isn’t a motivational poster. It’s a mechanic. What you focus on consistently what you think about, talk about, take action toward that’s what you’re feeding. And what you feed grows.
Most people make a list and then wait. They write down what they want and then spend the next six months half-believing it’s possible, half-expecting it not to happen, and wondering why nothing is moving.
The wanting isn’t enough. You have to direct your attention toward it. You have to act like it’s already in motion even when you can’t see the evidence yet.
You also have to be willing to not control the shape of it.
This is the part people struggle with most and honestly, the part I struggle with too. We get attached to the specific version of the outcome we imagined. The exact opportunity. The exact timeline. The exact door.
But spirit doesn’t work in straight lines. It works in the most efficient path available. And sometimes the most efficient path looks nothing like what you had in mind.
The Family Feud Canada audition that didn’t work out the first time wasn’t a failure. It was part of the setup. The Facebook page we built, the content we created, the noise we made all of it was energy moving in a direction. Spirit used every bit of it.
Trust the process even when especially when it doesn’t look like what you expected.
If you take one thing from this: write the list. Put real energy behind it. Take the actions that are available to you right now, even if they feel small or sideways or unrelated to the outcome you want.
And then get out of your own way.
The universe is better at connecting dots than we are. Our job is to keep showing up, keep directing our attention toward what we actually want, and trust that the pieces are being moved even when we can’t see the board.
It worked for me.
It’ll work for you too.